Why do we neglect other dimensions of wellness?
I absolutely love home design. It's amazing to see a broken-down, low-cost, 2-bedroom, abused and neglected starter home blossom into a ranch-style, 2-bedroom jewel of a steal for a new and growing family. But it takes a lot of work to get there. Good plumbing, great woodwork, and a well-developed plan are just a few of hundreds of components that bring it all together.
As an individual who by trade, focuses on physical wellness, I have few opportunities in my line of work to address other components of overall health and wellness. Knowing this is aggravating at times because as a researcher, I know that there are many other components critical to the foundation of human wellness. But the focus in my field tends to be on physical wellness. Focusing on one aspect of wellness is like someone who decides to build a starter home, moves into the house, and forgets to maintain all the day-to-day tasks associated with the upkeep of the house. Eventually, the house will age very, very quickly.
My optimal wellness depends on the health of my relationship with the One I believe to have ultimate impact and influence over my life. In other words, my spiritual wellness means more than all the other domains of wellness combined. More importantly, my faith in that belief is the cornerstone to my successful dealings with negative stress in my life. Anything less than that belief will compromise my spiritual wellness and ultimately my overall wellness.
But life sometimes deals us cards that don’t have a chance at becoming a winning hand. And when those times surface, we are forced into 2 choices:
1: We can fight and muster our own resources and fight, or,
2: We can draw our strength from our faith a particular spiritual belief (in my case, Jesus Christ, Lord, and Savior).
I recently published an e-book about my journey in spiritual wellness. As I contemplated how this spiritual relationship would look, and how it helped me become better according to my standards, I started to get ahead of myself and begin to compare myself to the average male in my position. I then concluded that I must be better than the average person my age and race, because of the things I’m doing right from my POV. The failure in my rationale was my comparison group - other human beings my age and race. In a series of letters, it was revealed to me that just because I was someone who “did all the right things” in the sight of most others doesn’t mean that it meets the standards of the Master of my spiritual wellness. My new e-book, “Signed, You Know Who This Is”, is a collection of those letters that essentially corrected my behavior. Needless to say, this has been a humbling experience.
If you are in a similar situation, I hope you can begin to enhance your own spiritual wellness. If not, I hope it forces you to think about how you perceive your spiritual wellness and its impact on other domains of wellness in your life.